I'm not saying this behavior is a conscious choice; in fact, I believe it mostly never is. But regardless of whether it's conscious or not, it still happens, and I think we should all start being wary of it.
It's hard to reject a gift when we're in a vulnerable position, and we shouldn't have to, but if we notice the other person is giving us something while secretly counting on us to repay, then it's not a gift; it's a loan.
We can accept whatever a person wants to give us, if we want it too, but if they then try to guilt trip us into doing something for them because of it, we are allowed to desist.
I have an uncle who's very prone to this behavior, and it's a complex thing because I really do think he is an incredibly generous person; it's just that when he performs a generous act, he always subconsciously expects you to repay him by doing what he thinks is best for you.
For example, when I was in my early twenties, he helped me buy a computer, and I later realized he secretly wished that I would finally stop studying the arts and become more of a 'serious' person, lol. It's not that he forced me to drop Drama school or anything, but he'd drop a few comments here and there about how this computer would help me work on 'other types of projects'.
I used to hate him for this, while at the same time I really appreciated that he helped me get something I couldn't afford. With time, I learned to understand where he was coming from, and that accepting a gift from him didn't mean I was signing any hidden contract that forced me to follow his rules. At the same time, I had to learn to reject other offerings from him that I could do without, only to relieve the pressure of his secret expectations.
This logic also applies when we help someone, expecting they do what we think is best. Right now I think it's best to let people find their own way and limit ourselves to walking alongside them.
This is especially true when we haven't asked for what somebody gave us. And trust me, I don't think they do this maliciously; I even think we all do it to some degree. It's just an inherited, toxic way of relating to others. It might even be an attempt to help someone and indirectly impose our morality. Not everything is communicated through words.
For me, the goal is to remain as free as we can from other people's expectations and follow our own desires as much as we can. That said, we don't live in isolation, and we need other people from time to time; they'll need us too, and it's nice to lend a hand. It's just that it's better not to add debt we didn't consent to.