We face a lot of changes during our lives; from childhood to adulthood, we change into different people with different interests, problems, and priorities. That is just how life works. That doesn't mean that it is good or bad; it's just what happens. Change in our lives isn't distributed equally: most of the blow we get is when we turn 18: we have a million responsibilities and zero knowledge about how to handle any of them. But the rest of our adult life is also full of big changes. When getting married, having kids, changing jobs, all of that is equally stressful and terrifying. They are big changes for which we are never fully prepared. It's normal than when those times come we still feel like a liittle kid trying to make adult desitions. We don't know exactly what to do; it's like we are 18 again, making that first big change. We have evolved, but so did our problems.
Changing jobs may be hard; you don't know what to prioritize. It could be more important: the salary, the working hours, the industry, the company. Everything weighs in when making a decision, and it's hard to know if there is really a good choice. It feels like everything has pros and cons. Too much to figure out, and we don't even know when to start other than our instincts. I can't guide this employee through her decision; that is something only they are truly able to decode. It's 100% a decision for them; it's their thing to figure out, nobody else's. It may be good to change; it may be good to stay in what you know. That is something that they are in charge of figuring out. Seeking help is valuable and can be really helpful, but, in the end, they are the ones in charge of making the final decision, as they are the ones that will have to put up with the results of it. I just hope they thinking through and whatever decision they choose feels like the right one; in the end, they will be the only ones to know that.